We’ve all been there. We have a bad day or something inconvenient happens and we immediately vent and share this annoyance with anyone who will listen.
We call our best friend or our mom and say “I HAD THE WORST DAY!” It goes on and on, all day, and maybe even all week. We take something negative, something we didn’t want to happen to us in the first place and relive it over and over.
Doesn’t this sound strange? Why do we want to relive such situations?
A good family friend and I spoke about this kind of negative behavior and he said he will often ask people who vent to him “How many times have you told this story today?” He says everyone he asks that question to is always shocked.
I know when I have done this in the past I end up feeling exhausted and bitter however I keep channeling that emotion. I realized this and I decided to stop telling the story.
I think it is good to vent maybe to one person if you need to, and more so when it’s fresh. Holding onto that negativity and waiting to tell the next person is unnecessary and not good for inner peace.
I’m sure you’re thinking about times you’ve done this, and that’s OK! We are human, we are social beings and we like to express ourselves. But when do we draw the line?
You must also be identifying specific people in your life who seem to do this constantly. Maybe they like the drama of it all, but deep down, I can tell you, they are not truly happy. This type of behavior is bullying behavior. We are bullying our psyche. And bullies are never happy people.
I challenge you to recognize when you do this and stop yourself. Embrace the positive, let go of those inconveniences and see the good in your day, week, month or year. Life is what you make it. We have all the power.
If you see someone else who is retelling the same negative story, ask them, like my friend does, “How many times have you told that story today”? Sometimes all it takes is self-awareness for overcoming negativity. It all comes down to being mindful. Remember to take a step back and reflect and above all change your mindset. You’ll be happy you did.