Introducing Christin, my bestie.

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Christin and I, age 15, at Toys R Us. Yes we went to Toys R Us (and had a blast).

Have you ever had a friend that you click with so well? The type of friend that knows what you’re thinking just by looking at you? A friend you have a secret language with? Or a friend that just gets you? That’s Christin for me. She and I have been buddies since grade 8, and she’s is the greatest gal ever! She’s silly, hilarious, and has a huge heart. You always know when Christin is nearby because she has the best laugh that makes us all laugh! Even though she is smiley and full of laughter, Christin experiences mental illness just like me and we have very similar conditions. I hope to feature her from time to time on my blog to have her share some of her stories, both the good and the bad. She has a great deal of insight to share and I hope you will enjoy her fun quirky stories and personality. Stay tuned!

How to embrace change when facing a mental illness

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Change can be a very scary and awkward thing, especially if you have a mental illness.  I find I have a harder time adjusting to change than most people because my emotions are so heightened. Even if the change is good it still takes time for me to transition and get my bearings.  The only way I get through it though, is by fully embracing it.

In the span of two weeks I have started a new job, enrolled in a writing class and started volunteering! Talk about a triple whammy! I’ll admit, each change has been terrifying, especially because they are major social changes and new social events cause me to have anxiety. Why did I do this all at once you ask? Because it was time for me to come out of hiding and renter the world. The past few years I have barely done any activities or tried something knew and it was causing me to regress.

I was resistant to starting a new job because I was scared of the unknown and unfamiliarity that comes with a new job. I felt the best thing was to stay put and endure my workplace the best I could. But by doing so I was very unhappy.

I was resistant to joining a class, activity or volunteer organization because I was shy and felt lazy. As a result, I gained 40 pounds and was very bored and lonely!

I was not my usual self at all. It was as if I’d given up.
One day I just snapped out of it and thought “what the heck was wrong with me?” I was not following my mono-mantra at all!

I was so disappointed in myself at first but then I decided to be kind as I am after all human, and ups and downs are a part of life. Even though I write this blog, I do NOT have my life and mental health all figured out. This blog is just as much for my readers as it is for me. I like to go back and read my posts when I’m feeling glum and remind myself that I have the power within me to fight and make a difference for myself and my life.

After my personal intervention, I took a chance and decided to make changes.

I was very overwhelmed initially. So what I did was write down what was stressing me about the changes. When I saw it written down on paper it made me feel better and allowed me to develop a plan to limit my stress as much as possible with these new upcoming changes.

Before I accepted my new position I made a pros and cons list to ease my mind and talked about them with my family. It was great clarity and having family input and support was validating.
When I started my new job I decided to be proactive and make it the best experience I could. So far, it’s been great and I am very happy I took the plunge. New jobs aren’t easy but they are worth it and can open up many opportunities.

In terms of activities, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to do in my spare time that would help me grow. I decided to enroll in a writing class because writing is my passion and I wanted to develop more skills. So far my class has been amazing and I finally get to hang out with people who share the same passion.

My volunteer experience with my church has been wonderful and I get to work with my mom which is really nice! Supporting local community charities has been rewarding, and it makes me grateful for what I have.

So if you are stuck in a rut and unhappy with your life, think about and embrace change.

  1. Decide what you want/need to change in your life.
  2. Identify any barriers that will make you resistant to change
  3. Find solutions and coping mechanisms to help you embrace the change and allow you to distress.
  4. Discuss your thoughts and concerns with someone you trust.
  5. Decide what is best for you.
  6. Make the transition as easy as possible.
  7. Have an open mind and see the end goal.
  8. Eat right, exercise and do things you enjoy so you can relax.

Change is so difficult but it is part of our everyday lives. I know I won’t get far in life if I don’t try new things and explore new opportunities. Life is short, we have to make the most of it!

Daily Routine Life Hacks for those who suffer from anxiety and depression

Anyone who struggles with mental illness knows how hard it can be to complete regular daily activities. Life is chaotic with so many things to do and not enough time to do them. Balancing Work/school, eating healthy, exercising, chores, errands, spending time with family and friends and self-care seems IMPOSSIBLE at times.

What I really want to do is nothing at all most days. I want to relax, let my emotions calm down and be able to enjoy my day instead of constantly running around. Sometimes I get in a funk and want to do nothing for days. Then I feel guilty for being so lazy and unproductive. There is no winning!

The other day I did some research on laziness and how someone can overcome such a state, as it’s getting in the way of my success. It was amazing what I learned. I read an article that suggested assessing your situation and finding the true cause of your laziness. The common reasons people are often lazy are because they are feeling tired, overwhelmed, afraid, uninspired or stuck. When I read this I realized I was often feeling all 5 at some point during my day. With this new insight I looked deeper and figured out what specifically in my daily routine was making me feel this way. It was amazing how many little things would stress me or make me unmotivated and after chatting with my husband I realized the solution was to make my day as easy and stress free as possible so I could accomplish normal everyday tasks.

Here are some daily routine hacks that I have incorporated into my week so I can feel well emotionally and be productive:

  1. Establish a routine and goals for each day, week and month.

I’ve heard many mental health professionals say establishing a routine is key. In the past I have never been able to schedule my day down to the minute as I’m a bit of a free spirit. It stresses me if I don’t follow a schedule exactly due to my perfectionism. But I’ve realized how to schedule my day so it doesn’t feel so strict but also makes me productive and calm.

I figured out my wake and sleep times first and then wrote down my goals for each day with no specific times set. That way I can have flexibility.

I found an amazing site with multiple free printouts for day, week, month and year schedules and to-do lists. It was fun to find one that worked for me!

 

https://scatteredsquirrel.com/printable/personal-planner/

 

  1. Meal prep as much as you can.

 

I absolutely hate cooking during the week because I’m so exhausted after my work day. Lately I have cooked a few things on a Sunday so I have them for the week and I can grab and go as I please.

 

Lately I’ve been cooking ground turkey with taco seasoning and having taco salads for lunch. It’s super easy and delicious! I’ll often cook chicken on the weekend and have it for a couple days along with some veggies for dinner. It doesn’t take much to have healthy meals, just plan ahead and have easy things on hand like fruit, veggies, yogourt and cereal.

 

I usually never have time for breakfast so I started buying high protein Boost drinks. I feel like an 80 year of women at times but it really helps me to get my nutrition in the morning and it keeps my appetite at bay.

 

  1. Have a small bag of your staple cosmetics that you can quickly grab in the morning.

 

I have a huge makeup and hair cupboard but I typically don’t use evertyhing for a typical work day. I keep a bag with some staples like a hair brush, elastic, mascara, foundation, eyebrow pencil and blush and everything in the bag is all I use to get ready (plus toothbrush). It makes me WAY less stressed as I don’t have to go rummaging through my cupboard looking for things.

 

Another tip: do your hair and makeup but don’t feel like you have to look like a model everyday. I used to go all out but it would overwhelm me in the mornings and then I would end up wearing no makeup which would make me feel less confident. And confidence really helps my mood.

 

I learned to minimize my work day makeup. I wear a few products that make me feel and look professional and leave my other products for when I have a special outing and more time to apply it.

Please note though it is totally fine if you don’t want to wear makeup. To quote Hailee Steinfeld – “You feel greatest when you feel like a damn queen”. If you feel great and confident without makeup that’s great. YOU DO YOU!

  1. On Sunday, pack 5 days of work-out clothes and put them in your gym bag/car.

 

I NEVER want to exercise after a long day at work. I always want to go home and veg. However exercise is really important for those who struggle with mental health as it improves mood and reduces stress. When I have my clothes in my car for the week, there is no effort and no excuses on my part. I can go to the gym before I get home and the laziness sets in. It’s made a huge difference having my clothes on hand instead of having to go home, get dressed and go out again. HUGE HACK!

  1. Choose your outfit the night before.

 

Everyone says this but it’s totally the best way to go. When I have my clothes picked out the night before for the next day it’s amazing how my stress lowers.

FINAL NOTE

Everyone has to figure out what works for them. I’m still figuring it out every day but I thought I would share some insight in case it helps others!

 

If anyone has any more insight into daily hacks please share in the comments section!

 

Thank you for reading! All the best!

 

MEgan

10 Things That Make Me Really Happy

Lately I have been experiencing the blues. This is quite common for everyone during the cold, dark winter months. However, instead of being consumed by SAD I have decided to write about certain topics so I can have gratitude, stay positive and let it all out. We all need to do this from time to time. With each topic I write about I hope to inspire others to reflect on these prompts and find peace themselves.

The first thing I am going to write about is 10 things that make me really happy. Sometimes I am so focused on the negative that I forget to reflect on good things that make me happy so here goes!

  1. Traveling

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Traveling is my most favourite thing to do, especially when I”m feeling down. I feel refreshed when I visit new places and it makes me appreciate home more once I return. So far I have visited all of Atlantic Canada, Quebec and Ontario. I have also been to New England, Florida and Texas. While in Europe I travelled to England, France, Italy, Germany, Tallinn, Russia, Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Finland, Iceland, Czech Republic, and The Netherlands.

I really hope to do more travelling in the coming years. Top of the list is Australia and New Zealand along with Japan, Spain, Portugal, California, Louisiana, Western Canada, Romania, Greece, Austria, Ireland and Scotland.

Now to convince my husband…

2. Spending Time with Family and Friends

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I do enjoy spending time with family and friends. I wish I could see them more often as my family and best friends live away but I am starting to get a great group of friends since I moved to New Brunswick so that makes me happy 🙂

3. Snuggling my dogs

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My dogs Winnie (miniature dachshund) and Bodie (miniature schnauzer) are the best therapy in the world. My parents got Winnie when I was struggling and she helped me recover. My husband got me Bodie when we moved to NB and he is so sweet. I didn’t want to take Winnie away from my Mom and Dad as she loves them and her house but I try to visit her as often as I can.

4. Going on dates with my husband

I love when Shane and I go out together. We have so much fun and we are huge foodies so we try to go to different restaurants and breweries. Sometimes we even get dressed up and have dates at home. We always enjoy each others company and never get sick of each other. He’s my rock.

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5. Visiting Sussex and In-Laws

I love going to visit Shane’s parents and brother in their sweet home in Sussex. It’s very relaxing and we always have great food and a lot of laughs. Their house reminds me of my grandmother’s house. My Nana’s house always smelled so good and it was very cozy. My grandmother sadly passed away in 2011 and her house was sold so I enjoy visiting Sussex as it reminds me of her and my childhood.

6. Food (LOL)

I LOVE food. Going to restaurants is my hobby haha. I love trying new foods and especially love ethnic food such as Indian, Thai, Japanese, and Mexican. I also really love seafood and appetizers. Side note -Shane makes the best risotto I have ever tasted.

7. Spa Days

I LOVE going to the Spa. It’s very relaxing and rejuvenates me. The other day I did a four hour spa experience where I had a 60 minute facial, 30 minute massage, mani-pedi and a hair blowout! It was the best day ever…omg.

8. Dressing up

I love dressing up! I love buying a new dress, and doing my makeup and hair. Sometimes I”ll even do it when I’m not going out so I can feel good. It really lifts my spirits.

9. Harry Potter

Harry Potter is my favourite thing in the world. It’s such a wonderful story and J.K. Rowling is an amazing writer and such a kind humble person. I have even considered getting a HP tattoo at some point but maybe art work is the way to go…

BTW if you’re a huge HP fan look up all the funny HP Tumblr posts on Pinterest. Funniest thing ever, I love people on the internet (the ones who are kind and funny).

10. Being in nature

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I always feel so peaceful when I’m out in nature. I love hiking and going for walks either in the woods or near the beach. They are both so beautiful and relaxing.

There’s my ten! Take some time to think about your top 10 things that make you happy. I can guarantee you will feel better if you’re having a low day! Share them on social media! We need some positivity on there.

Thanks for reading, cheers!

 

 

Overthinking Anyone?

Do you ever find yourself awake at 3 AM thinking about that embarrassing thing you did ten years ago? If no, you may find this ridiculous but if you’re someone like me you’ll understand the torment! I constantly suffer from obsessive thinking/worrying and I have to say it is exhausting!

I’m not sure why I worry the way I do. I’m always so concerned how I come across to others (so I guess I care too much about what people think), but it’s not that I have no confidence in myself I just hate when my character is judged. I like to think I’m a nice person that can do no wrong, but of course this isn’t true for anyone. We’ve all done things we aren’t proud of, whether it was simply embarrassing or just a mistake, but for me it stays with me.

I remember one time I was on a school trip to Prague. I didn’t know anyone on the trip but I always wanted to go to Prague so I decided to go by myself and meet new people. It ended up being the worst trip ever! I did love the city and the things we did but the people were just terrible and I felt very stressed around them. Whenever I would talk to someone they would pretty much ignore me and hang out with their other friends which I found odd as most people from our school were very inclusive. Not only was I ignored but I was teased for making conversations. They said that Canadians made them uncomfortable because we talk too much. In my defense (in this particular instance) we were at a restaurant at a table for two hours. Was I supposed to sit across from them and be silent the whole time? I was just trying to be friendly by asking them where they were from and what courses they were taking in school. I don’t think that’s being that nosy! I felt so humiliated! To top it all off our bus got in an accident on the way back from Prague. The bus drive went on the wrong exit and decided to back up on the freeway instead of turning around at the next exit! A car ended up hitting us. We were all okay but it held us up for three hours and we almost missed our ferry! The icing on the cake was when I tried to get some sleep. I was trying to lay down across two bus seats and felt the seatbelt tighten on my stomach. Due to the tight belt I let out a fart that was definitely heard by some of my bus mates and I almost died.

This trip was three years ago and I still think about how embarrassing it was! I am never going to see those people again and I feel so stressed thinking about it. Now that is definitely ridiculous.

Lately though whenever I find myself going down the overthinking road of doom I try these tips to help calm my worried state.

  1. Talk it out, or write it out. It helps me to vocalize my feeling so it doesn’t consume me. If you don’t want to tell anyone you can always write in a journal to clear your head. It always does the trick.
  1. Self-assure. Tell yourself “it’s okay what happened”. Learn from it next time if it was a mistake or if it was embarrassing find a way to laugh about it and move on. If you cannot self-assure trying getting reassurance from someone else but don’t keep rehashing.
  1. Distract yourself. When you start to have those thoughts try to think of something else or do an activity that de-stresses you. Working out or reading always helps me.
  1. Find common humanity. Remember everyone has these moments in life! You are not alone!

I can’t stress (lol), the last one more. We all will commit stupid embarrassing things sometimes. It’s going to happen, it’s part of life. But we have to learn to be kind to ourselves and move on from them or else we will not be able to lead a happy life. Only you have the power to fight these feelings and see yourself for who you really are, a good person. If you have done bad things, you can always start fresh and make amends. It’s never too late. So let’s stop obsessing and start de-stressing!

An Ode to my favourite TV show

Okay, I admit it. I’m a TV fanatic. I love it all, from the cheesy Disney channel shows to AMCs walking dead…there is something just enthralling about television and how it can pull your mind body and spirit into every moment. It’s amazing to think of all the writers out there who can tell a story and have it be conveyed so well that it just brings you to tears or extreme happiness. Whatever feelings arise, it always feels like I am somewhat part of it all, when in reality I’m just sitting at home alone in front of my flat screen. It may sound ridiculous, and you may be wondering this girl has no life, but in fact yes I do have a life! I graduated university, have a full time job, have experienced meaningful relationships and have travelled the world. I know what’s out there and the possibilities that await any person.  But of course some things can’t always be a reality, and life can sometimes get in the way of accomplishing our dreams or seeing possibilities for ourselves. It’s our imagination that gets us through each day. Thinking of the what ifs, even if it always stays imaginary. That’s why television can be uplifting. It puts imaginary into somewhat of a reality. Of course it’s fictional, but in that moment it seems real, and it gives insight into your own life and what you want.

We all have that one TV we are obsessed with (unless of course you hate TV). My obsession for the past eight years has been the Vampire Diaries. I know what you must be thinking, but hear me out.

Although, everyone always teases that I watch the Vampire Diaries, 80% of people that make fun have not seen a single episode, and fail to realize that the show was always in the top ten for most popular TV shows even during hiatus. It may seem like a cheesy typical vampire flick (which it is) but it also has amazing writers, cast and character development. It helps too that the cast and crew are the most spirited and hilarious group I’ve ever encountered!

But anyway, this show commenced its first season fall of 2009 and since it was a CW show I definitely tuned in to see what it was all about. It starts off as dark and mysterious…a vampire returning to his hometown, and a lonely grieving girl who has lost a great deal. It then continues and you get to know the charm of their town Mystic Falls, and all the people in the community. There was a lot of buzz on how the show would be received, as the books written by L.J. Smith were very popular, and the characters had a particular look and feel. Nina Dobrev may not have been blonde as everyone wished, but she sure blew everyone away when she auditioned for the part of Elena Gilbert. And soon, the others were cast and were all brilliant. I was always curious as to what went on when brainstorming for each episode, and who had the final decision on every snarky remark Damon Salvatore made, or hilarious commentary by Caroline Forbes, but after watching episode after episode it always drew me in more and more.

In 2009, I had to take time off from university and I felt that maybe I would not be able to accomplish my goals in life. When I moved home, I couldn’t work, or go out much because of extreme exhaustion, and all I had that I could do was rest and obviously watch TV. So  since I was home by the TV so much I decided tuned into something new. Watching the vampire diaries pulled me out of my depression and gave me something to look forward to every week.

As the seasons continued, we are introduced to many plot-lines and cliff hangers. There is tons of heartbreak and loss, but the characters only grow stronger from it. They all learn to lean on each other, and they are always there for one another. I always wished I could experience such powerful relationships like theirs, but now that I have lived abroad and now have moved home I realize I have found that. I have friends that will be there no matter what, and have found love many people dream of. The love I experienced may not have been a passionate love triangle between two brothers (swoon) but it was just as consuming and really has shaped who I am today. The characters in the show have lost so much, but yet instead of dwelling on the past and things they have lost, they moved forward and measure their life in love and sometimes even throw in a joke or two about their hardships.

Not only does the show focus on powerful relationships, but it also represents how the impossible can be possible. Every day I dream of possibilities for myself, and maybe I may not be able to achieve every dream I have, but sometimes what seems impossible can sometimes become reality. It’s about how you look at it and how you go about it. You can really achieve some form of your dreams if you really try. Even though the Vampire Diaries it is just a tv show (and probably anyone who would have to go through what they went through would have to be admitted) I still admire their perseverance, how they conquer their fears, achieve their goals and see the world for what it is. Once you see what is right in front of you, the possibilities are endless.

It’s now been 8 years since the Vampire Diaries premiered and now this week it comes to an end. I will surely miss the weekly antics of the cast, crew and of course the dedicated fans who made the past 8 years so entertaining!

The next time you feel down in the dumps due to whatever life has thrown your way, tune into your favourite show or movie. Even though most often what you’re watching is fictional, embrace it. It will help you to discover what you’re truly passionate about and what you aspire to be. When you get excited about a particular plot or identify with a particular character ask yourself why. It may seem silly because it’s just a TV show, but it can really open your eyes to creativity, positivity, new relationships and experiences; all with the click of the remote.

How to be Interesting

Let me start this post by saying what you all are thinking – I haven’t written in awhile. I won’t apologize for it as there probably wasn’t much you missed these past few months anyway! For weeks I was wracking my brain saying  “I need to get back to blogging” and so I tried to think of something interesting to write about. I like to write about a lot of things; advice, travel, well –being, all the common blog stuff, but the sad thing is lately I find I am becoming less and less interesting. Don’t feel bad for me, I still have fun, but I’m certainly not the life of my own party or anything.

Do you ever come across people — either friends or family that constantly have crazy stories, like, insane stories that you would see in a movie and think WTF, how do these things happen to them? Not that I need the drama, but a good story is a memory that lasts a lifetime. But then I’m crazy to want funny or odd things to happen to me because that’s just looking for trouble that I don’t really need. What’s better?

This sounds horrible but a friend of mine was kind of mugged once and it was the funniest story ever. She literally turned around and someone had a clown mask on in broad daylight and grabbed her bag which she clung onto for dear life. Then she somehow was rescued by a young man and his Chihuahua who chased after him. I know I sound like a horrible friend to think that is funny but my friend was dying laughing the whole time she told me! So you see, something as traumatic as being mugged turned out to be a hilarious story that I still remember even though it was years ago.

I certainly don’t think I need to be THAT interesting. I’m not going to go to the rough side of town and hope I get mugged for a funny story, NO. BUT I feel like I’m an old lady with my life already passed by.

University was exciting but I was ill and not in the best social mood. I know it sounds silly that I’m so hard done by by having mono but I literally had the worst case scenario and for years was sick and didn’t know why or what was wrong. Hard to believe it was just the kissing disease, but here I am healthy and definitely not dying so for that I feel fortunate. Don’t let that deter you from kissing anyone though as most people have mono for a month and it’s kind of nice to have an excuse not to go to class (when it’s just mono for the month not 2 years).

Sweden was cool, and yes very interesting. I miss it all the time. Living in a residence with 10 guys and 1 girl certainly has strange and funny stories to go with it. They put bars on the windows towards the end of our stay because people in our residence were running on the roof tops. My roommate and good friend wrote the residence committee a letter referencing Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets because he felt like Harry when the Dursley’s put bars on his window and he couldn’t go to Hogwarts. Seriously though, isn’t that a fire hazard? We could have been trapped without a way out because of those bars. I guess they somewhat took the letter of our conditions seriously because a year after I left the residence was sold and turned back into offices (and nicely renovated and probably met health code).

So now that I live in a new apartment with just one roommate (my fiancé)it’s quite low key. Not that I mind relaxing, but I’m in my twenties and I need to have fun.

SO to be productive and kick start this be interesting quest, I looked up “How to be interesting” on the world wide web.

This is what it came up with:

  1. Don’t be boring

Well jeese, what a good place to start. Am I already failing at this? I have no idea if I bore people or not. The people in this article who said don’t be boring say to be brief and be positive. Well, I’m not being very brief in this blog post and positive, well, I can do better with that. Sorry if I bored you with this post and didn’t seem that positive.

Moving on

  1. Be a good listener

The people who wrote this article that people who are good at captivating others have good listening skills. I’m working on this all the time. It’s tough to listen especially if someone is being a pompous dumb ass but oh well at least you can try.

  1. Talk about the other person’s interests

I have done this in the past, and once while I was studying abroad 2 Swedes said I asked too many questions and basically said I was annoying. We were on a school trip, I knew no one and we were sitting at a restaurant eating supper facing one another. Are we supposed to just sit there and chew silently? By the way don’t think all Swedes are reserved, it just was those two on my trip to Prague that had issues speaking to anyone. My other Swedish friends were very friendly. Anyway, some may call it nosy, I just say I am interested in other people’s stories. Hence why I hear these awesome stories from other people all the time. So I think I’m pretty good on this one.

  1. Have 3 good stories

Hmmm, this is already an issue. Something to work on.

  1. Be charismatic

I think I’m okay here. I’m a bit too passionate with everything and anything so maybe with this I can tone it down.

  1. Be somewhere interesting

Well dang. I live in a small town so this is hard to do. Maybe I should start a band so I can tour the world. Maybe it’s time to move to New Zealand like I’ve always wanted to do.

  1. Embrace your innate weirdness

Not sure where I fall on the weirdness scale, but this is very cool. Own your quirks people! That’s what will make us interesting.

Hopefully these tips have helped give you some insight as they have me. Life is short so they say so it’s up to us to make our own lives interesting. Another mono perspective way of thinking!

If anyone has any interesting things to share, please do so in the comments!

For further reading on this, see these articles:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2011/11/30/how-to-be-interesting/#190751744039

http://theweek.com/articles/450572/7-ways-most-interesting-person-room

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Interesting

Winning The Mental Health Lottery

Everyone dreams of winning the lottery, right? I know I do! Just imagine all the things you could do in life if you won that 55 million jackpot? If you’re reading this, like me, you are probably thinking about all the things you would want to do. Pay off debts, buy amazing properties and maybe even quit your job and travel the world. The sky is the limit! Of course money can’t truly buy happiness but it certainly can change your life… that is if you buy a ticket. Many people say – “what’s the point? I could buy tickets my whole life and never win”. Well you certainly won’t win if you don’t purchase a ticket at all! It’s funny how the brain works.

This concept faces me every day but it certainly isn’t just lottery tickets making feeling skeptical. From time to time I get down, I feel worried and stressed and sometimes for no reason at all. What makes me feel good about it is that others too go through this, but the thing that makes me feel hopeless is, what do I do to get over this hump? I’ve done the late night stress eating, the sleeping for hours, not connecting with friends and family, feeling dread for the next day not knowing what awaits. Where did it get me do you think? Continuing these detrimental cycles? No where. So what’s next do you think?

Mental health is a tricky thing. Anyone going through it knows how awful it feels to be in limbo land of emotions where there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I felt that way for awhile, but then one day I became fed up and said no more, what can I do to help myself? And from that moment on I did everthing in my power to feel the best I could and figure out the best coping skills that worked for me when I did feel like times were tough again. But the key word was ME. I read books, I saw professionals, I found support, but it was MY determination and perseverance that got me there. I always look for new things that are out there it never ends, and if you’re reading this now you can seize this day right now and do something anything that will help yourself get over this rut. The struggle is still there but it’s comforting to know you are doing everything you can to make yourself better.

If you’re lying in the dark with the blinds closed, open those curtains and let the sun shine in. Start taking advice your doctor and read that book on mindfulness. Call your local gym and set up an appointment with a trainer to have a workout plan. Play tennis, go swimming, stroll the mall, do an activity, talk to your friends and family again. Even if it’s the last thing you want to do, do it. It’s what you need to do.

If you catch yourself thinking “what’s the point of doing anything?  I probably will always feel like this” than you are most likely going to continue feeling that way. We need to push ourselves and find what works for us. Accept what you feel, know it’s not permanent and ask yourself “what do I want to feel right now” and go from there.

We won’t always have the answers as to why we feel the way we do or how to stop it, but we still need to live our lives. Once I found determination and perseverance I won the lottery. It’s time for us all to buy that ticket.

I’m Busy and Tired

“I am so busy and tired!”  Do you ever get irked when people say this? Apparently many people are irked after seeing Jillian Michaels post about being tired because according to their comments they are just as or if not more tired than she is and how dare she say such a thing. When I read this I could not believe how a harmless venting session turned into a “my horse is bigger than your horse” situation.

We all have different stories and things happening in our life and of course someone’s plate can become a bit heavy at times it doesn’t give someone the right to shame someone else. Everyone has their own problems and struggles and no one should be able to tell someone off for expressing their own daily frustrations and struggles. What happened to compassion guys? When we have had a hard day we usually are hard on ourselves most, why in the world do we need someone else contributing to that fire?

I definitely get frustrated at times when friends say they are too busy to hang out but yet I try to have compassion and understand what they are going through and have no judgement. We are not the same person. We handle our schedules differently and I cannot expect someone to think and act exactly as I do as that is not realistic.

Everyone’s problems are their own. Whenever you start to feel judgement coming out of you, stop and think. It still happens to me from time to time as of course as we humans have opinions, but what I do is take a step back and realize – to each their own. We can’t decide that someone is not struggling as we may not know the full story.  Recognize that that person is suffering and have compassion no matter how rude they are being because usually when someone is a bully or judgemental, they most likely suffer inside for some reason.

Before spreading hate, remove yourself, take a walk in their shoes and have compassion. It has helped me to feel more positive and happy in my life; a feeling I will never get tired of.